Words of Support and Encouragement Week of September 13, 2010


I hope you had a great weekend!  Tonight, Monday, September 13, 2010 at 5:30p is our Monthly Support Webinar.  We will be discussing grief and other challenging emotions that you may experience throughout your journey. We will also discuss the importance of passion and empathy.

Trauma and grief can make you feel like you have lost yourself.  You no longer react the same way, enjoy the same activities, or feel the same emotions.  You may feel like you were lost in the trauma.  This is unfortunate and painful, but normal.  Feeling lost and unlike yourself can make moving through the grief process more challenging, it is like you are trying to work through the emotions of trauma and preserve the old ‘you’ at the same time.  This can be exhausting.
If you are able to preserve a bit of yourself throughout the grief process, it will be easier to work through your emotions and find yourself at peace once again.  Two key elements to focus on are passion, and empathy.
Passion is affection, enthusiasm, desire, deep interest, and love.  Retaining passion for something in your life throughout trauma gives meaning to the self outside of grief.  You have something else that makes you you.  You have something or someone to engage yourself with, and focus remaining energy in a positive way.  You have a goal and plan for each day.
Empathy is the ability and willingness to understand and support someone else.  While it may seem that you only have enough energy and emotional capacity to recognize your loss, it is important to maintain an emotional connection with someone else.  This serves two purposes: 1.  You are accountable to someone else, because they love and depend on your support as a friend, family member or spouse.  2.  You retain self-confidence and self worth by actively supporting someone else.
Here is the calendar information for the webinar: http://cnyfertility.com/discussion/calendar.php?do=getinfo&e=40&day=2010-9-13&c=1
I hope to hear from you tonight!