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24
Jun

April's Journey to Fertility: Anniversaries

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April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week 53: Anniversaries
Anniversaries are a challenge when you are trying to conceive. For example, we recently surpassed the third year mark of trying to conceive. As that month approached, we had just finished a cancelled IVF cycle and I was having health issues – you can imagine my frustration, anxiety and sadness at that point.  However, I am also celebrating a joyous anniversary; I have been writing about my journey for one year now! I am thankful for my readers and consider this a perfect time to reflect upon what I have learned along my fertility journey.
Fertile Lessons:

  • There are many, many ways to make a baby
  • Facing health and fertility challenges has made our marriage stronger and has given us more faith in each other
  • Defeat today does not mean defeat tomorrow
  • Life is much easier when you take it a little bit at a time
  • Make deliberate choices
  • Trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be
  • Take time to enjoy your spouse (dates, vacation, etc.)
  • Enjoy this moment
  • Do not miss out on opportunities to make memories right now
  • Develop a fertility game plan, but be open to adjusting the plan as necessary
  • When you do not understand why, ask the doctor questions
  • Listen to your inner voice
  • Western and Eastern treatments are both valuable
  • Count your blessings & be gracious
  • Everyone wants me to be successful in my journey to motherhood
  • De-clutter (at work, at home, in your commitments and in your own head)
  • Use available resources (support groups and workshops, books and online sources, friends, family)
  • Happiness is a choice
  • Our inner strength is much stronger than we know
  • Making myself a priority is important, too
  • Many other couples have gone through or are undergoing fertility treatments
  • Having a baby will add to our family because my husband and I are already a family

What have you learned on your journey to fertility? Please feel free to share your snippets of wisdom in the comment section below!
Graciously,
April all Year
Click here to read April’s blog including all of her previous articles.

10
Feb

April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty Six

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April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week Thirty Six: Thankfully
A few weeks ago, when my husband and I were cleaning out our office closet, I found a number of cards people had written me over the last two and a half years. Part of me became terribly sad because I thought we would have ended this journey with a baby by now. The other part of me realized how fortunate my husband and I are to have such a supportive network of friends.
A couple of weeks ago, I received an exciting text from my esthetician who has become a great friend. She wrote that she had a fabulous gift for me and that I had to be patient. Ooooh – I was excited! I knew it must be some sort of a fertility gift. Today, I picked up my surprise – two fertility dolls from Africa. They are a riot! One is male and the other is a female. Both dolls are wooden and have detailed body parts. I am excited about these dolls because, to date, they have an unbroken record of success.
But the dolls are not the only gifts I have received through this journey. Since there are many friends and family who follow my blog, I thought this might be a fun way for me to recognize their giving nature.
Some of my Fertility Gifts:

  • St. Gerard’s charm and Prayer for Motherhood card – Gegie, my best friend’s mother
  • Couples’ Guide to Fertility (book) – Heather, my friend at work
  • Inconceivable (book) – Concetta, my Yoga for Fertility friend and hairdresser
  • Angel baby girl charm, passed down to her when she was going through a risky pregnancy – Mary, my friend at work
  • More than one card of encouragement and a faith holy card with fish wire charm necklace– Jeanine, my friend at work
  • Smudge stick – Kristen Magnacca
  • Faith necklace and card of encouragement – my cheerleaders at CNY

I know that we often go through our days feeling annoyed because hardly anyone understands our frustrating journey. After all, how can those who have never gone through such an emotionally painful experience possibly have any understanding of what this ongoing challenge is like? Perhaps they cannot comprehend how we feel, but that does not mean that our friends and family cannot be there to offer us support and encouragement so we know we are not alone.
My intention for each of you is to recognize and be thankful for the little gifts of encouragement your friends and family have given you along the way.
Thankfully,
April all Year Read more

29
Dec

April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty

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Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 30: Counting your Blessings
As 2009 winds down, many of us are probably experiencing a variety of emotions. Personally, I am upset to have not yet achieved a pregnancy and I have recently been overcome by the many common “what if” feelings women undergoing fertility treatments experience. As we begin to seriously consider IVF options and payment plans, I know that there is a possibility the entire process may not work. However, I also know that not trying is not an option, and we will never know unless we move forward.
One constant challenge I have as we move through this process is remembering that although I may not yet be a mother, there are many other prosperous aspects of my life. Serving as an adviser for my school’s service club this holiday season has helped keep me focused on my many blessings.
When I called one grandmother to let her know that we would be providing for her entire family of nine, I introduced myself and began the conversation by asking her how she was. Her reply, “blessed.” The reality of this woman’s situation is that she would have had every right to reply with a bitter or depressed response. After all, she is elderly, caring for eight grandchildren and living on a limited income. Once I let her know that our service club would provide plenty of food and gifts for her family, she was incredibly thankful. She began to explain a bit of her situation –this year had been harder than others, she had always been able to provide for her family, but she needed some help this holiday season. Her enthusiasm and genuine gratitude left me smiling for the rest of the day. Read more

7
Jul

April's journey to fertility: Week seven

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Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Seven: Tiny Miracles (7/7/09)
“Life is a series of thousands of tiny miracles.” This quote, by Mike Greenberg, was on the front of a greeting card I received upon returning to work after my laparoscopic surgery. When I reflect on my journey to fertility, I realize that I have experienced many tiny miracles. I also realize that I tend to forget about those tiny miracles soon after the immediate experience. For example, I was thoroughly convinced that something was wrong with my cycle this month, which has been the first month since my laparoscopic procedure in which I have charted my basal body temperatures. I was ready to call my acupuncturist to inform her that I had not ovulated and that there was no point in scheduling my luteal phase treatment.
After reviewing Toni Weschler’s book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, I realized that I had probably ovulated after all. I relaxed a bit, but was curious about what was wrong this cycle – all of my temperatures seemed lower that usual. Heather (my acupuncturist) looked at my chart, smiled, and said that everything we are doing is working because my temperatures are the best she has seen them yet. I went home and explained the great news to my husband. When I asked him what he thought I should write about today he mentioned my charts, which I had forgotten about already. Of course, I am still taking my temperatures every morning and have not completely forgotten about my improving charts, but I had forgotten about my improvements just enough to need a reminder.
Kristen Magnacca suggests keeping a daily Gratitude List. Simply stated, this is a daily list of all of the people, experiences, etc. for which you are thankful. Admittedly, I have not been reflecting on my tiny miracles consistently and this is apparent by the fact that they are not at the forefront of my thoughts. I decided I would share today’s gratitude list with you and invite you to reflect on your tiny miracles as well. You may even want to consider listing your tiny miracles daily. I know that when I think about not being a mother yet, it becomes far too easy for me to begin the negative “what if” thought process of dismal thoughts. However, if I spend time reflecting on my tiny miracles, I am much more at peace with my life exactly as it is at this moment. Read more

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24
Jun

April's Journey to Fertility: Anniversaries

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April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week 53: Anniversaries
Anniversaries are a challenge when you are trying to conceive. For example, we recently surpassed the third year mark of trying to conceive. As that month approached, we had just finished a cancelled IVF cycle and I was having health issues – you can imagine my frustration, anxiety and sadness at that point.  However, I am also celebrating a joyous anniversary; I have been writing about my journey for one year now! I am thankful for my readers and consider this a perfect time to reflect upon what I have learned along my fertility journey.
Fertile Lessons:

  • There are many, many ways to make a baby
  • Facing health and fertility challenges has made our marriage stronger and has given us more faith in each other
  • Defeat today does not mean defeat tomorrow
  • Life is much easier when you take it a little bit at a time
  • Make deliberate choices
  • Trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be
  • Take time to enjoy your spouse (dates, vacation, etc.)
  • Enjoy this moment
  • Do not miss out on opportunities to make memories right now
  • Develop a fertility game plan, but be open to adjusting the plan as necessary
  • When you do not understand why, ask the doctor questions
  • Listen to your inner voice
  • Western and Eastern treatments are both valuable
  • Count your blessings & be gracious
  • Everyone wants me to be successful in my journey to motherhood
  • De-clutter (at work, at home, in your commitments and in your own head)
  • Use available resources (support groups and workshops, books and online sources, friends, family)
  • Happiness is a choice
  • Our inner strength is much stronger than we know
  • Making myself a priority is important, too
  • Many other couples have gone through or are undergoing fertility treatments
  • Having a baby will add to our family because my husband and I are already a family

What have you learned on your journey to fertility? Please feel free to share your snippets of wisdom in the comment section below!
Graciously,
April all Year
Click here to read April’s blog including all of her previous articles.

10
Feb

April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty Six

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April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week Thirty Six: Thankfully
A few weeks ago, when my husband and I were cleaning out our office closet, I found a number of cards people had written me over the last two and a half years. Part of me became terribly sad because I thought we would have ended this journey with a baby by now. The other part of me realized how fortunate my husband and I are to have such a supportive network of friends.
A couple of weeks ago, I received an exciting text from my esthetician who has become a great friend. She wrote that she had a fabulous gift for me and that I had to be patient. Ooooh – I was excited! I knew it must be some sort of a fertility gift. Today, I picked up my surprise – two fertility dolls from Africa. They are a riot! One is male and the other is a female. Both dolls are wooden and have detailed body parts. I am excited about these dolls because, to date, they have an unbroken record of success.
But the dolls are not the only gifts I have received through this journey. Since there are many friends and family who follow my blog, I thought this might be a fun way for me to recognize their giving nature.
Some of my Fertility Gifts:

  • St. Gerard’s charm and Prayer for Motherhood card – Gegie, my best friend’s mother
  • Couples’ Guide to Fertility (book) – Heather, my friend at work
  • Inconceivable (book) – Concetta, my Yoga for Fertility friend and hairdresser
  • Angel baby girl charm, passed down to her when she was going through a risky pregnancy – Mary, my friend at work
  • More than one card of encouragement and a faith holy card with fish wire charm necklace– Jeanine, my friend at work
  • Smudge stick – Kristen Magnacca
  • Faith necklace and card of encouragement – my cheerleaders at CNY

I know that we often go through our days feeling annoyed because hardly anyone understands our frustrating journey. After all, how can those who have never gone through such an emotionally painful experience possibly have any understanding of what this ongoing challenge is like? Perhaps they cannot comprehend how we feel, but that does not mean that our friends and family cannot be there to offer us support and encouragement so we know we are not alone.
My intention for each of you is to recognize and be thankful for the little gifts of encouragement your friends and family have given you along the way.
Thankfully,
April all Year Read more

29
Dec

April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty

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Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 30: Counting your Blessings
As 2009 winds down, many of us are probably experiencing a variety of emotions. Personally, I am upset to have not yet achieved a pregnancy and I have recently been overcome by the many common “what if” feelings women undergoing fertility treatments experience. As we begin to seriously consider IVF options and payment plans, I know that there is a possibility the entire process may not work. However, I also know that not trying is not an option, and we will never know unless we move forward.
One constant challenge I have as we move through this process is remembering that although I may not yet be a mother, there are many other prosperous aspects of my life. Serving as an adviser for my school’s service club this holiday season has helped keep me focused on my many blessings.
When I called one grandmother to let her know that we would be providing for her entire family of nine, I introduced myself and began the conversation by asking her how she was. Her reply, “blessed.” The reality of this woman’s situation is that she would have had every right to reply with a bitter or depressed response. After all, she is elderly, caring for eight grandchildren and living on a limited income. Once I let her know that our service club would provide plenty of food and gifts for her family, she was incredibly thankful. She began to explain a bit of her situation –this year had been harder than others, she had always been able to provide for her family, but she needed some help this holiday season. Her enthusiasm and genuine gratitude left me smiling for the rest of the day. Read more

7
Jul

April's journey to fertility: Week seven

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Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Seven: Tiny Miracles (7/7/09)
“Life is a series of thousands of tiny miracles.” This quote, by Mike Greenberg, was on the front of a greeting card I received upon returning to work after my laparoscopic surgery. When I reflect on my journey to fertility, I realize that I have experienced many tiny miracles. I also realize that I tend to forget about those tiny miracles soon after the immediate experience. For example, I was thoroughly convinced that something was wrong with my cycle this month, which has been the first month since my laparoscopic procedure in which I have charted my basal body temperatures. I was ready to call my acupuncturist to inform her that I had not ovulated and that there was no point in scheduling my luteal phase treatment.
After reviewing Toni Weschler’s book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, I realized that I had probably ovulated after all. I relaxed a bit, but was curious about what was wrong this cycle – all of my temperatures seemed lower that usual. Heather (my acupuncturist) looked at my chart, smiled, and said that everything we are doing is working because my temperatures are the best she has seen them yet. I went home and explained the great news to my husband. When I asked him what he thought I should write about today he mentioned my charts, which I had forgotten about already. Of course, I am still taking my temperatures every morning and have not completely forgotten about my improving charts, but I had forgotten about my improvements just enough to need a reminder.
Kristen Magnacca suggests keeping a daily Gratitude List. Simply stated, this is a daily list of all of the people, experiences, etc. for which you are thankful. Admittedly, I have not been reflecting on my tiny miracles consistently and this is apparent by the fact that they are not at the forefront of my thoughts. I decided I would share today’s gratitude list with you and invite you to reflect on your tiny miracles as well. You may even want to consider listing your tiny miracles daily. I know that when I think about not being a mother yet, it becomes far too easy for me to begin the negative “what if” thought process of dismal thoughts. However, if I spend time reflecting on my tiny miracles, I am much more at peace with my life exactly as it is at this moment. Read more