FAQ - Support and Emotional

This may be the first question that goes through your head after you have been trying to conceive for any amount of time, or if you have begun your treatment for infertility. Infertility is a tricky condition. There are a variety of emotions associated with it, the stigma in our culture is that pregnancy should be “easy” and “natural” and these phrases can cause couples to feel inadequate and frustrated with their situation. The truth is that 10% of all couples are infertile and infertility is a disease and should be given the same emotional support as other diseases are given, and be free of that stigma.

There is nothing that you have done wrong which has caused your infertility. Dealing with the emotions that infertility brings about can often lead couples to the blame game. They can blame themselves, (oh if I just hadn’t waited so long) or their partners (well if he/she just had done this..) when the truth of the situation is that the blame game will only hurt your relationship at a time when you need to support one another the most. Take your infertility factor, whether it be male factor, female factor or both, as your united diagnosis. Don’t make it a “mine” or “your” issue, become a united front! You will likely feel sadness and pain, find comfort in your partner and offer your comfort to your partner.

The journey of infertility can be long, with highs and lows. Knowing that it’s you and your partner against the world will help you during all these times.