Asking someone for help isn’t something that comes easily. It requires us to acknowledge that we aren’t able to control the situation, or our response. It also places someone else in the seat of control momentarily. While trying to conceive, there are many things that we need to let go of. We have to let go of our cycles, as they aren’t always predictable. We have to let go of our expected hormone levels, as they are sometimes to high or low. We have to let go of our perceived anatomy, as sometimes things are lacking, tilted, obstructed, or even in abundance. We also have to let go of our emotions, and the expectation that we will be ‘OK’ all the time.
When dealing with an event with such a heavy emotional burden as trying to conceive, it is most important to allow ourselves to let go of the expectation of ‘keeping it together’ and ask for help. This means that we should open ourselves up to Fertile Friendships, connecting with one of our Success Stories, attending the Circle of Hope Support Group, and even reaching out to a local counselor. Initially, it can be very challenging to ask for help, and accept the work that has to be done. You may feel a little worse before you feel better. That is OK, you are just beginning to work though the many emotions that you have been holding onto these past few years. However, with a bit of patience and time, you will begin to breathe easier. You will have a more stable approach to dealing with your challenging emotions, and you won’t experience such deep lows as before.
If you would like to ask for help, together, I’d like to invite you to the Syracuse Circle of Hope Support Group session this Monday, January 9th at 5:30p. We will share a great dinner, and even a few laughs! We will also have a fantastic special guest, Meg Sullivan LMSW.
You are also welcome to sign up for our Fertile Friends program, or contact me if you would like to speak with one of our Success Stories.
Finally, I have some great contacts for local counselors in the Syracuse, Rochester, and Albany locations. These women have been treating our clients for years, and they are familiar with the unique needs of someone experiencing infertility.
Don’t ever be afraid to ask for help! You will be surprised by how great it can feel, once you do.