Good morning, and I hope you had a wonderful weekend! Today, the Syracuse CNY Fertility Center office is holding our September Circle of Hope meeting, and we will be touching on some inspirational moments in The Shack by William Paul Young. The following quote is one that applies to all of us, and may be a good thought to consider as we transition into the autumn season.
“Now tell me, where do you spend most of your time in your mind, in your time in your mind, in your imagination: in the present, in the past, or in the future?” (p. 143)
Where do most of your thoughts reside? For most people, they are in the past and the future. We often dwell on the past, focusing on what could have been and what we should have done differently. On the other hand, our future thoughts are usually of worry, and anticipation of things going wrong. We completely neglect the present. We let so many beautiful moments pass us by with all of these worries. Although we can become incredibly preoccupied and nervous especially during cycles, but it is important to try and stay connected to the world around us.
Remembering to enjoy your family and friends during your cycle will make the emotional ups and downs easier, and will also protect your relationship with your partner/support person. If you are in a relationship, it is very easy to lose yourself in the process of infertility. Suddenly you can begin to view each other not as partners, but as an integral component to creating a child. Try to remind yourself why you are here in this situation, with that particular person. What do they mean to you? How can you thank them each day for being with you? What do you need from them? These little questions will help you to recognize important moments in the present, while allowing you to enjoy what you have, right now.