Video: Trying to Conceive When You Are Over 40

Lisa:  Hi Dr. Rob!  How are you? {{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  Spectacular Lisa, how are you today? {{vspace8}}
Lisa:  I’m great, thank you very much. {{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  What type of questions are coming to us lately? {{vspace8}}
Lisa:  A lot of clients are talking about age lately. I think there’s this general knowledge that once you hit 40, you just can’t be a mother anymore.  I really don’t think that’s true, and I know that you really have evolved your belief to extend those boundaries a little bit.{{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  Well, we’re taught that at a certain age, that it’s less likely.  Then we begin to believe that, and those beliefs really run through our entire body.  I have seen so many people conceive when we thought maybe they couldn’t conceive.  I am learning more and more that we are what we think.  I always ask people how young they are.  I always believe things are all possible.  When you believe that things are possible, it’s the better side of all of this.  We are somehow prepared to train for the worst.  Doesn’t that always show up?  When we begin to prepare for the best, the body relaxes and the changes (the electro molecular and hormonal balances changes) and your odds go up.  It is possible at any age.  If you’re doing nothing because you believe that it won’t work, then it’s more likely then it won’t.{{vspace8}}
Lisa:  I think it’s disappointing and I feel badly about it when often clients will come to me and say “I’m 43, is it even worth trying?”  Well, of course it’s worth trying, you have to try.  If it’s your dream, if it’s what you want, and you want to be a mother, it’s worth trying.{{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  It’s always worth doing something.  I always say your eggs, donor eggs, adoption—none of us really know how it’s going to happen if you’re open to whatever the universe delivers.  Maybe even at 25, it may be less likely than at 40 for some people.  This is the part we never know but if you believe and have faith and you’re doing something, you’re at least giving yourself a chance in life.  That’s all.  We all have a chance and we’re here.  We might as well tap into that and have every bit of the belief.{{vspace8}}
Lisa:  We’ve started a new program, our Success Stories program.  I have received tons of emails about 30 emails in the last week about women who have conceived in their 30s and above and they’re willing to support you.  These are women that have had come into our office, they weren’t sure whether they were able to conceive, and they’ve gone home with beautiful babies.  Some on their own after trying a couple times, some with IVF, some with donor egg, some with donor sperm, and some through foster to adopt.  They’ve created these families in all different avenues and they’re willing to support women who are questioning, “Is it possible?  I just want to speak with someone who’s been there.”  So please contact me, I have a wealth of women that are willing to support you as well, and offer some words of encouragement.{{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  When you share the stories and we hear the success, our beliefs go up and it changes the energy and again, those things happen.  I was at the gas station recently, and one of our clients pulled into get gas and I didn’t recognize her at first.  Then she said, “Hello, Dr. Kiltz, I just had a baby at 42 after giving up and letting go.”  All possible.{{vspace8}}
Lisa:  Thank you so much for your encouraging words and pushing us to keep digging deeper within ourselves for inner strength because we do have a lot.  I know I appreciate that and our clients do as well.{{vspace8}}
Dr. Rob:  Thank you Lisa, I so appreciate it.  God Bless.{{vspace8}}
Lisa Stack, Support Coordinator
1 reply
  1. Beth
    Beth says:

    I am a 47 year young Mom of a beautiful 4 year old and TTC again. Had my son, the love of my life, at age 42 in 2007 naturally despite all the negative feedback that my chances were slim. I have been pregnant 3 times in my 40’s, each time naturally and on the first try, but only 1 ending in pregnancy. I also have had endometriosis since my early 20’s and 3 laparotomies. Despite that, I am healthy, take care of my body, eat right and have a positive attitude, and most importantly, laugh a lot. I am a very spiritual person and believe that anything is possible if you believe it. I am also a big Wayne Dyer fan and have all his books and try to surround myself with positive people and thoughts. So, I also tell others not to lose hope. However, had a miscarriage the cycle before my son was conceived and another 1 ½ years after he was born, in November 2008, both at 8 weeks. Both times I miscarried, I did not use the progesterone as I did with my son, so I don’t know if that was a factor. I am sure going to use it this time if I am so lucky to achieve pregnancy again. I am actively trying and won’t give up, although I’m getting a little anxious as I had no problem getting pregnant before. I actually knew the day it happened for all 3 pregnancies! I have had all the testing and everything seems ok and doing everything I can. With much disappointment, I have been to a RE and another fertility specialist, either impersonal or lost track, never returning phone calls in order to properly continue with next step in my fertility treatment protocol. Also tried IUI 2 years ago, but unsuccessfully. So, I am going the natural route this time, i.e. Fertilaid, additional supplements, exercising regularly, reading, relaxing, and will have to wait and see. I would appreciate any suggestions that you have that would be helpful.

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