Hi, my name is Lisa Stack and I’m the CNY Fertility Support Coordinator. In my Words of Support and Encouragement this week, I talked about resolve.org’s National Infertility Awareness Week and their theme, “Busting the Myth”. Now these myths that we talk about are various comments that you hear from others, such as: “If you just keep trying, it’ll happen” or “If you just relax, you’ll get pregnant”, or even the more challenging ones: “Are you doing it the right way?” “Are you having sex enough?” “Are you spending enough time together?” Really, these myths that kind of come up and people say coming from a place of support and just trying to make light of it can be hurtful and can be challenging to deal with. I want you to always remember that it’s important to try and not take things personally, realize that what people are saying and what they are projecting to you is not a reflection of you, it’s just their own experience and their own journey. They really may have no idea of the fertility process and about the struggles that you’ve endured, they may just be trying to make light of the situation. If you take it personally and if you take it within your heart, it can cause negative feelings and it can make you sad, anxious or depressed. Always try to remember to not take things personally. Realize that unless someone has experienced infertility, they really don’t know what you’re going through, they don’t understand your emotions, they don’t understand the challenges that you’re facing, and the struggles that you face day to day. It’s hard for them to convey to you properly, how they feel, and how they presume that you feel. So, always remember don’t take anything personally. Brush it off as just a comment. It’s someone else’s journey, it’s what they’re saying. It has no impact on you and no impact on your cycle.
Dr. Kiltz has made a great announcement, this week too that instead of giving away two IVF cycles, he’s giving away six! So that’s really exciting. It’s an awesome opportunity for you if you are interested in IVF or maybe you have run out of funds, or no longer finance an IVF cycle. Absolutely get your registration in and we hope that we can get you the family that you’ve always wanted. So remember, when busting those myths, just brush them off and don’t take anything personally. If you need another resource on the idea of not taking anything personally, don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements is an awesome, awesome book. So pick up The Four Agreements, go through them, keep them as close to you as you can, and always remember just let others live their journey and keep moving forward on yours. Best of luck!
Lisa Stack, Support Coordinator