April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty Four


April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week 34: Empowerment
When I recently searched for synonyms for the word control, I found the following terms: manage, organize, run, have power over, be in command of, direct, cope, supervise. Immediately, I realize I feel most at ease when I am effectively coping with life’s daily challenges, managing my workload efficiently and keeping organized. Although I may not admit I like to be in control, I like to be in control! (I am sure my husband is nodding his head as he reads this.)
Since navigating through fertility treatment can leave me feeling as if very little is within my control, finding ways to feel personally empowered is important. In order to establish and maintain that feeling, I ask questions – many, many questions when I am with the doctor or acupuncturist, empowering myself at the fertility center.
Achieving that sense of satisfaction and empowerment can sometimes be a creative and engaging process, too. For example, I try to be inventive and diligent at work. Having my own classes allows for me to use my management and creativity skills, empowering myself at work.  Exercising empowers me by invigorating my spirit and energy.  We are currently remodeling everything from the floors to the closet in our office, making me feel empowered at home. Even though there is one specific area in which we feel out of control, we certainly can feel empowered to take charge of other aspects of our lives.
Many couples feel frustrated, alone and out of control during fertility treatment, but learning communication and coping strategies helps both members of a couple feel empowered and in charge. Kristen Magnacca will be offering her Love and Infertility workshop this coming Saturday at the CNY Syracuse location. My husband and I have attended three of her workshops. We always leave knowing there will be an end to this journey and that our marriage is able to survive this challenge. I would encourage you to attend this workshop. Whether you are attending one of Kristen’s workshops for the first time or as a refresher, you will leave with coping strategies and a refreshed outlook. For those of you who are shy and have yet to attend a workshop, do not worry. Kristen will make you feel comfortable and does an excellent job of meeting each individual’s and couple’s needs. Not to mention, Kristen has been through the challenges of infertility herself and has made it to the other side. Her stories and strategies are relevant and effective.
Whatever you do to empower yourself, my intention for you is that you achieve a sense of control and satisfaction.
Peace and blessings,
April all Year Read more


April's Journey to Fertility: Week Twenty Eight


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Twenty Eight: Making Yourself a Priority
Several weeks ago Kristen Magnacca held a Love and Infertility Workshop. Kristen and I have met in person two times and she has given me two half hour coaching lessons over the phone. Usually, I feel much more focused and confident that my fertility challenges will work out after speaking with or listening to her. During the November teleconference Kristen directly asked me the question, “What are you doing everyday for you?”
Like all “new” endeavors, I did exceptionally well with Kristen’s tips on how to survive infertility after I first heard her speak. One of Kristen’s top suggestions is for women facing fertility challenges to spend time each day doing something only for them.  For a while I was writing my gratitude list and/or walking everyday. However, summer faded away and the pace of life became much more hectic. I began working full-time again and the cold weather set in (a weak excuse for not walking regularly, I know!).Oftentimes however, the more spiritual priorities of my life fall off of my to-do list. Then the guilt creeps in. I should have gone to yoga…I should have written my gratitude list…We haven’t gone to church in weeks…I didn’t do the MAYA abdominal massage today…I really should have taken the dog for a walk today – even he was upset by my lack of motivation! Of course, the list could go on for pages. Read more


April's journey to fertility: Week twenty one


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Twenty One: Marital Bliss Part II
Last week I discussed how to more effectively communicate with your partner and how to maintain a healthy marriage while undergoing fertility treatment. As so often happens, however, I write an article and then think of additional information I could have added.  Along with last week’s ideas here a few more which may be helpful for you and your spouse.
1.    Attend a workshop: There are many workshops offered to support couples who are dealing with infertility. I know Dr. Rob will host Kristen Magnacca during the month of November. Both my husband and I found her workshops inspirational, thought-provoking and engaging. We left having learned a number of strategies to enhance our communication skills and to maintain connected during this stressful and demanding time. In addition, we were able to hear both a male and female perspective at one of the workshops. RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association ( also offers a series of workshops and teleconferences for couples dealing with fertility issues. Sometimes the idea of sitting in a room and discussing such a personal issue can be intimidating, but we have both left such workshops feeling empowered and stronger. Read more


April's journey to fertility: Week four


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week four:  Our fertility treatment “break”
We take a break from different aspects of our lives because something is not working. After our multiple IUI attempts and a discussion about moving onto IVF, I knew that our approach to becoming parents was simply not working. As a result, we decided to take a break from western fertility treatments. I spoke with my acupuncturist about naturally increasing my fertility, and she recommended that I take a series of vitamins and put me on two different types of herbal formulas – one for my follicular phase and one for my  luteal phase. She also recommended I increase my acupuncture treatments from two times a cycle to three times a cycle. During the first month of taking herbal remedies, I ovulated in the middle of my cycle. This was HUGE for me. I had always seemed to ovulate much earlier in my cycle. I was so excited to see progress!
As Heather continued to treat me, we came up with two more additions to my fertility plan: weekly yoga and regular fertility massages. I have to admit I am consistent with my acupuncture and herbs but am not as consistent with yoga classes or massage treatments. Part of the reason for my inconsistency is lack of time and the other is lack of money since fertility treatment can become expensive. Fortunately, CNY offers a package (buy three treatments and the next one is free) that has made paying for treatments more affordable. After pre-paying for a six week session of yoga I decided to pay per class; then if I have to miss a class, I don’t feel as though I have wasted any money.  After tweaking my financial approach, paying for my appointments/classes has become more manageable. Not to mention, I often compare what I pay per month at CNY to what I will be paying for daycare as a working mom and I consistently realize that we just need to carefully budget and deliberately spend money. (Hopefully you realize the connection to last week’s discussion on deliberate choices and thinking.) Read more


Strengthening Your Relationship


Burning Love FlowerThroughout your journey to conceive you may find a new strain on your relationship with your partner.  This can be troubling but it is extremely common, and there are a few things you can do to help get your relationship back on track.  Two of our workshops coming up address this challenge directly, Dr. Rob’s Love and Infertility Workshop and Bonita’s The Art of Making Sex Sacred Workshop. Check our calendar at for Rochester, Syracuse and Albany events coming up soon.
In the meantime there are things you can do today to help mend those wounds in your relationship caused by the heartbreak of infertility.  The task I will be discussing today sounds too simple to be true:  Have sex.  Seriously!  When was the last time you made love to your partner just for the fun, and the love of it?  By now you know exactly what day of your cycle it is, when you are ovulating, exactly what time you have to have sex because you took your Ovidrel last night and don’t want to miss ovulation, and after sex you contort yourself into all sorts of positions with your legs up a wall or a mound of pillows underneath you.  These are all great things for trying to conceive but just do me one favor: Take a deep breath!  Do you remember when you first met your partner?  When you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other, and loved each night you spent together, just the two of you?  There is a reason for that, love!  That is what brought you here, and why you want to have a child together so badly.
It is easy to get into a routine and forget the little things that make us so happy.  How about tonight you just enjoy each other.  Try to forget what day of your cycle it is, and how work was that morning.  More importantly, remember why you are together, and why you care.  You did not choose each other because of your prospective fertility.  You chose each other because of many more, wonderful reasons.
Not feeling up for sex?  Try a massage, or a nice bath, anything to get you two close, and feeling that love between you.  Trust me, it will be a nice visit from the spouse you remember.
If you would like to explore this more, try the two workshops listed below.  And as always, we are here to help.
Rochester Dr. Robs Love & Infertility Workshop Part 3
Saturday, June 06 2009 1:00 PM  – 3:00PM

Rochester CNY Fertility Center 2244 East Ave, Rochester, NY
“Couples Workshop on Forgiveness – I just want my wife back” – Presented by Kristen Magnacca and her husband Mark Magnacca. The pressure of Fertility Treatment has the ability to bring out the worst in everyone! We will concentrate on how to remain grounded in yourself and your relationship. This Workshop will help you to: Create a Fertility Game Plan, Understand the “Honey Do List” strategy and change the atmosphere in your marriage and relieve emotional stress! *RSVP to Chris Briel at
The Art of Making Sex Sacred Workshop
Saturday, June 27 2009 1:00 PM – 3:30PM

CNY Healing Arts Studio – Syracuse
Learn techniques for intimate relationships with Bonita Shear. She will teach you how to connect with your heart, your soul and your eyes and harmonize the male and female polarities. This workshop will include some Kundalini Yoga (these are the teachings of Yogi Bhajan, PhD) and touch upon several essential oils. Bonita will share several tips on foods that increase potency for men and women. * This workshop is offered as at no charge. * Please RSVP by calling CNY Healing Arts Center at 315.671.5755
Take care, and enjoy!
Lisa Stack