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Kelly

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Brenda & Ryan

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Nicole

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Natasha

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14
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Ashley & Chuck

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21
Feb

The Embryos That Could: A Remarkable Story of Embryo Donation (Part 2)

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I just always knew I was going to be a mommy, but when it came time to start trying for a family it didn’t happen at all like I expected. Everyone around me seemed to get pregnant without a second thought about it but I was left with month after month of struggle and pain wanting to be a mommy. People would say to me “it will happen when you stop trying” and “just relax and it will happen,” but it didn’t. So I continued to hope and pray. When we finally got referred to an infertility specialist I found out I had 100% blocked Fallopian tubes so I had surgery to “fix,” them. Everything looked great and I hoped we would get to start our long awaited family soon.  Five months later we got pregnant for the first time but sadly the baby was in my Fallopian tube and wouldn’t survive to term.  All I could do was beg and pray it wasn’t true but it was true and I not only lost that baby but also the fallopian tube it was growing in.  6 months later I was pregnant again but that one was a tubal pregnancy as well and I lost the baby again.  Life felt like a total nightmare; one that I couldn’t wake up from.  I was devastated but I still had faith that I would be a mommy and I prayed somehow a way would open up for us to make it possible.
The IVF door opened for us and we were blessed with a first-time success with who is now our wonderful 5-year-old son.  We also had 6 beautiful frozen embryos from his cycle and I was convinced the pain of infertility was over for me.  We even got pregnant naturally again when my son was 2 but again the baby was ectopic and would not survive so I decided the best thing to do was to have my only tube removed so I didn’t have to experience that pain ever again. However, this also meant I would never conceive naturally again.  Giving up on that slim chance of conceiving naturally was one of the most difficult decisions of my life.
Being an only child was very lonely for me and it was not something I wanted for my child. Every night, my son and I prayed before bedtime for a brother or sister for him.  Giving my son a sibling was important to me so we cycled 4 times with our 6 embryos from his IVF cycle to give him a sibling.  Sadly none of them stuck like he did.
I knew we could never do IVF again at our local clinic because of the cost. Similarly, traditional adoption seemed unfeasible and potentially another long and painful road.   After that last failed cycle it didn’t seem like a sibling would be possible.
Then I prayed what I thought was an impossible prayer to be answered.  I asked that somehow I be given the opportunity to mother a child from birth and to be able to enjoy every moment with that baby just as I did with my son but without having to simulate my own ovaries.  Without tubes, this seemed like a truly impossible prayer.
Two months after the last failed cycle I was offered the greatest gift of my life from someone who I had never met in person. A mommy friend I started an infertility group with on Facebook was blessed with triplets (yes triplets) and had 5 embryos left from her IVF cycle. She messaged me one day out of the blue and told me she felt in her heart like those embryos were meant to help us complete our family.  WOW…. Out of everyone in FB land, she felt compelled to gift a part of herself to me.  No strings attached or money exchanged, just a truly selfless gift from one mother to another.  Now that we had another chance to grow our family I had to find a clinic willing to do the transfer.  CNY fertility gladly accepted the embryos from another clinic in another state and scheduled me to start a Frozen Embryo Transfer with them.  So on Valentine’s Day (one year to the day from becoming friends with this mom on FB) I transferred one of the embryos at CNY fertility with Dr. Kiltz and this time it stuck.
Now I have another amazing baby boy to hold in my loving arms!!
 

 
I truly believe that we go through what we do to lead us to the path that we were always meant to take.  No matter how much pain we endure there is always a purpose for the pain and struggle. Without those ectopic pregnancies, I wouldn’t have been lead to IVF which gave me my son.  Without all the other embryos failing I wouldn’t have even known about embryo adoption and I would never have been offered the embryo that is this baby.  Our second little miracle baby. With all my heart I know that this is the baby that was always meant to be in our life.  I’m so glad I never gave up on my dreams of mommyhood and faith that I would have another baby in my future despite great struggle and loss.  The power of prayer, faith and hope is a truly amazing thing!
When I was first offered the embryos I knew that if I had success and had embryos left over that I wanted to bless another family with them and I hoped that I would find someone local to me so our genetically related children could know each other and grow up together both being in the same situation as adopted embryos.  I came across a woman that I knew in high school and she too had fertility issues that took away her ability to conceive naturally.  She had one baby from a donor egg and something just told me that she was someone I could be connected to in this amazing way.  So my donor mom and I spoke about donating the remaining embryos to this woman and . . .
 
To be continued in part three
 
 
 
Written by: Sarah
Edited by: William Kiltz

8
Feb

The Embryos That Could: A Remarkable Story of Embryo Donation (Part 1)

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After struggling for 4 years to get pregnant and going through two rounds of IVF, life just didn’t seem to be going my way.
Beginning my third round of IVF, I joined a “secret group,” of close to 100 women that were cycling the same time as me. As part of this group I had the opportunity to meet many lovely families, but one family, in particular, stood out. I met them when they were going through their fifth round of IVF. She had previously had success with her first cycle but was now back again to have another child. After two more failed cycles she was completely devastated. She posted how her son sat there and prayed with her every night that mommy would be blessed with a baby so he could have a sibling. It broke my heart. She and her husband took a break and then a few weeks later came back and posted how they are going to explore their options such as adopting or looking into embryo donation.
Right around this same time, after four years of trials and torments, I got news that I was pregnant. Not just pregnant though, I was pregnant with triplets!
 

 
Throughout my four years of trying to conceive, my biggest fear was always having multiples. I mean, two or three kids all at once! Could my body even handle that? Could I financially afford to have twins or even triplets?
After conceiving in my third IVF cycle, I had 5 remaining embryos that made it to freeze. My job covered all of IVF, but knowing that I was getting ready to resign due to my high-risk pregnancy and lose the insurance I would no longer be able to afford to keep the embryos frozen.
This family I mentioned above never came to me but her story inspired me and I had to help. That’s when I decided to reach out to this particular family in the process of exploring both traditional adoption and embryo donation.
I messaged her and I said, “I would love for you to adopt my remaining embryos”. She was ecstatic!
I decided to do this because going through IVF is hard, especially when you keep having negative outcomes. My last round of IVF was so difficult I just couldn’t bear the thought of discarding my embryos after all I had been through. Plus, if I can’t give these embryos a chance at life, then I thought it was best if someone else could at least try.
Pretty soon, she was having the transfer and sure enough, the first embryo worked!
It was an incredible gift to give. Honestly, I felt like I was the lucky one. Not only did I help her but she literally helped me by saving these embryos life and giving them a chance at life when I no longer could.
Over the following months, I became very close to the woman I donated my embryos to. We still keep in touch almost every day.
The family let me be apart of their pregnancy by having the ultrasound tech send me the sex of the baby because her family wanted to wait until the birth to find out the child’s sex. I kept that secret for the whole pregnancy and just a few months ago her water broke and she now has a beautiful baby boy.
It’s just amazing to see how much that little boy is loved!
Embryo donation/adoption can be a touchy subject for most people, but going through the experience and interacting with the recipient family, being a part of their pregnancy, and seeing the new life they now cherish and adore has changed my entire aspect on embryo adoption.
I think one thing to keep in mind for those who have extra embryos from an earlier cycle that may be considering donating them is that there are many out there who would be delighted, even honored to receive your embryos.  From the other perspective, I would recommend women who have had many failed cycles to seek options like embryo adoption, even if that means asking “strangers,” from a support group. There are so many out there who would be delighted to help you and seeing how much that family loved their new child, even though it wasn’t biologically related, you could tell that it was their child because of how much they loved him.
I never had any regrets but was always wondered what it would be like after I saw a picture of the baby. Would I change my mind? Would I be jealous? Would I regret giving away my embryos? Thankfully, no. It’s the most beautiful thing, to see their family of now four light up like a beautiful picture in an art gallery, so full of love and happiness. It makes the decision to donate my remaining embryos that much sweeter.
It warms my heart to know that I have filled this families emptiness and I am forever grateful for her and her family for accepting this baby as their own and also going out of their own comfort zone and carrying a baby that’s not biologically theirs and mothering it just like if they created this baby. It’s been an additional blessing that I’ve formed such an amazing friendship from what seems like such an odd and intimate beginning. I feel like I’ve known her my entire life.
But all of that might not even be the most remarkable thing about this. . . .
 
To be continued in Part Two
 
 
 
 
 
Written by Ronnica McFarland
Edited by William Kiltz

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Megan & Chris

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Oct

After 3 years!

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Thank you so much CNY Fertility for giving me this amazing gift of a perfect baby boy. My husband and I had been trying for 3 years after an ectopic pregnancy took one of my tubes. Trying naturally and trying IUI just wasn’t working and it was causing us so much stress and grief. Living in California, there was no way we could afford IVF here. After some internet research I found CNY Fertility and we booked a trip to New York. One year after my second transfer I am sitting in my living room holding my first child in my arms. He’s 2 months old and healthy and happy as can be! Thank you so much for all that you do. The cost and the patience it takes for the entire process is well worth it and we will be back next year for round 2!

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Aug

Our Miracle Baby

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My story begins as is. I have been trying to conceive for over 4years now. I can remember going to store to get pregnancy sticks and looking down to notice its negative numerous times. Finally I decided to go see a Dr. who tried to help-by stating let’s check your hormone levels, then check to see if your ovaries are blocked along with your tubes. That all came back normal.

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I just knew something was off. I was diagnosed with endometriosis. Finally, I found a Dr. who decided to do surgery in my belly to take a look around and he found a huge 4.5cm cyst on my left ovary that was filled with hard stuff kinda like a chocolate cyst but not. We did the surgery and he removed 45% of my left ovary! That was life changing. Three months later I got pregnant and it was a miracle, but then we lost the baby. This happened a few more times. We didn’t know why and then I saw Dr. Kiltz who LITERALLY WAS A MIRACLE MAN!!! We did the Keto diet and I was able to maintain this current pregnancy!! It was all due to my diet and keeping down the inflammation!! I suffered from inflammatory disease called RA my whole life and now it was causing infertility until I met Dr. Kiltz who literally saved me I feel.. without his knowledge or practice my baby wouldn’t of survived!! We’re happily 34weeks and baby is very strong!! I believe in the Keto diet and his practice!!! Love this man!!! I would tell other woman to talk and be open! Knowledge is POWER!! It helped me a lot to talk about my story with other women everyday, everywhere. That’s how I healed, talking and knowledge!!!! So, thank you to Dr. Kiltz and his Team!!!! I would recommend any woman to go here!!! Staff is amazing and very professional!!!!!!!