Compiled by the Education Committee, Spring 2007
Kim Kluger-Bell, MFT, Chair
Jana Frances Fisher, Ph.D.
Jennifer Adams, Ph.D.
Mental Health Professional Group
American Society for Reproduction Medicine
(Based on the Children’s Bibliography compiled by Elaine Gordon, Phd, and Ellen Speyer, MFT)
*For excellent lists of books on adoption for parents and children see click here.
Part One: Donor Conception Children’s Books
Appleton, Tim. (2005) My Beginnings : A Very Special Story Published by IFC Resource Center, U.K. Available here.
Bourne, Kate. (2002) Sometimes It Takes Three To Make A Baby(Explaining Egg Donor Conception to Young Children) Melbourne IVF, Victoria, Australia. Available here. Email firstname.lastname@example.org for availability. Written for 3-9 year olds. There are three sections to the book.
Celcer, Irene. (2007) Hope And Will Have a Baby United States, Graphite Press. Available here. Ages 3-7. Four-book collection.
Gordon, Elaine. (1992) Mommy, Did I Grow In Your Tummy? Where Some Babies Come From California: EM Greenburg Press. Available through Amazon.com. Ages 4-12.
Grimes, Janice. (2004) Before You Were Born; Our Wish For A Child Published in the US by X,Y and me. Available here. There are 16 versions of these story books.
Grimes, Janice. (2005) Before You Were Born: My Wish For A Child Available here . These story books are good for children in single parent families
Schaffer, Patricia. (1988) How Babies and Families are Made: There is More Than One Way Berkeley, CA. Sarah Tabor Books. Available through Amazon.com
Infertility Research Trust. (1992) My StoryAvailable here. Written for children up to age 6.
Donor Conception Network. (2002) Our Story Published by Donor Conception Network. Available here.
Part Two: Donor Conception Books for Parents:
Bernstein, Anne (1994) Flight of the Stork: What Children Think (And When) About Sex and Family Building 287 p. Indianapolis: Perspectives Press. Available through Amazon.com Enlightening interviews with children aged 3-12
Cooper, S. and Glazer, E. (1999) Choosing Assisted Reproduction: Social, Emotional and Ethical Considerations Indianapolis: Perspectives Press. 400p. Available through Amazon.com
Ehrensaft, Diane. (2005) Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates: Answering Touch Questions and Building Strong Familes Guilford Press. 305p. Available through Amazon.com
Lorbach, Caroline. (2003) Experiences of Donor Conception; Parents, Offspring and Donors through the years New Zealand: Jessica Kingsley Publishers. 208 p. Available through Amazon.com
Pettle, S. and J. Burns. Choosing to be Open: The Experiences of Parents Donor Conception Network, U.K. Available here. Short book consisting of conversations with 52 parents
Part Three: Gay/Lesbian/Single-Parent Children’s Books:
Baxter, Nicola. (2003) Our StoryDonor Conception Network. Available here and also here. An excellent guide to donor insemination for young children, with one version about having lesbian parents (ages 3-6).
Day, Ann Frances. (2000) Lesbian and Gay Voices: An Annotated Bibliography and Guide to Literature for Children and Young Adults. Available through Amazon.com
Howey, Noelle & Samuels, E. (Eds.) (2000). Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing up with Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Parents. Stonewall Inn Editions. Available through Amazon.com. Collection of essays by 20 contributors
Clunis, D. Merilee & Green, G. Dorsey. (2003) The Lesbian Parenting Book: a Guide to Creating Families and Raising Children Seal Press. Available through Amazon.com.
Gillespie, Peggy, Weston, Kath, Kaeser,Gigi & Martin, April. (1999) Love Makes a Family: Portraits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Parents and their Families University of Massachusetts Press. Available through Amazon.com.
Martin, April. (1993) The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook: Creating and Raising our Families Harper Perennial. An affirming guide for lesbian and gay families. Available through Amazon.com.
Mattes, J. (1997) Single Mothers by Choice: a Guide for Single Women Who are Considering or Have Chosen Motherhood Three Rivers Press. Available through Amazon.com.
Mohler, Marie & Frazer, Lacy. (2002) A Donor Insemination Guide: Written by and for Lesbian Women Harrington Park Press. Available through Amazon.com.These parents of two children conceived through donor insemination share their experiences and offer advice.
Pepper, Rachel. (2005) The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians: How to Stay Sane and Care for Yourself from Preconception through Birth, 2nd Edition. Available through Amazon.com
A humorous and insightful guide written by a lesbian mother who herself used donor sperm to conceive.
Pies, Cheri. (1988) Considering Parenthood Spinsters Ink. Available through Amazon.com. A slightly dated yet user-friendly book that considers many dimensions of lesbian family building.
Pollack, Sandra & Vaughn, Jeanne (Eds.) (1987) Politics of the Heart: a Lesbian Parenting Anthology Firebrand Books. Available through Amazon.com.