We had a very successful Support Group meeting in Syracuse this month with Dr. Rob! With a few new members we discussed the road to happiness as well as an excerpt from Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert touching on grief. A common theme we are seeing in each support group is the need to develop coping mechanisms and techniques for difficult situations, such as seeing pregnant women, or young children. Some suggestions were to remind ourselves that these women are not intentionally hurting us by being pregnant, this is just our response to the situation, or we could learn from those who are pregnant and gain valuable knowledge for when we hopefully can have a family of our own.
These are great ideas, and they may or may not work for you. We did however come to the conclusion that it is important to acknowledge these feelings of anger and sadness in order to work though them. Once you acknowledge these emotions you are able to try different techniques to make them feel not as overwhelming.
We cannot make these feelings disappear completely, but we can work to quiet them so that we are able to function in our everyday lives. One integral part of this according to Dr. Rob is a positive attitude and a mantra or repetitive thought. Your repetitive thought may be ‘I am strong enough, I can do this’ or simply ‘I am OK’. Whatever it is that helps you is correct. It is just important that you stick with the repetition and one day the positive thoughts will come to you.
Dr. Rob also mentioned several books that would be helpful in our journey, some are listed below but you can find the remainder of his suggested reading list at www.mindbodysmile.com.
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
Thoughts are Things by Prentice Mulford
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
Next month we will be looking at ‘The Alchemist’ by Paulo Coelho at the Support Group sessions in each location. Hope to see you there!