Diane (not her real name) has embarked on the journey of becoming an egg donor at CNY Fertility Center and will share her thoughts during the process in her blog here. If Diane’s journey and stories that she shares compels you to look in to becoming an egg donor we would love to get you started. The first step is to fill out our Donor Eligibility Questionnaire – click here to begin.
How it Began:
My friends and I sat around our non-air conditioned apartment one hot summer evening in 2003. I was just out of college and my friends were in their last year or two of their undergraduate work. We had the radio on and cold drinks in hand as we tried to remain as still as possible in the brutal summer heat. An ad on the radio suddenly caught our attention. The ad was asking for women our age who were healthy to donate their eggs in order to help couples with fertility problems have families. This ad sparked a long conversation. None of us had ever heard of this before. We were aware of “test tube babies” and had heard of sperm donation, but egg donation? This was a new concept.
We of course, immediately went online and checked out CNY Fertility’s website. It seemed to us that we could potentially all be eligible. All we had to do was call the fertility center and we’d get a packet in the mail to fill out and send back. Easy enough. Now the question became, do we really want to do this? From what we could understand the process did involve shots of hormones and the egg retrieval seemed to basically be a “surgery”. And there were of course some other questions that we explored. Would it be too weird to know that there is a child out there somewhere that has half of our DNA? Biologically it would be a product of our bodies, but it wouldn’t be our child. What if the child wanted to get in touch with us later on? These were serious things we had to consider. After much deliberation we all decided that whether or not we, as individuals, ever wanted our own families or not, it seemed silly to have the ability to help a couple have a baby and not doing anything to help. Personally, I was pretty sure I never wanted children of my own, so I felt especially compelled to let another woman use my eggs if having a baby was important to her. Hey, if I wasn’t going to use them someone else sure should!
Of the four of us friends, three of us ended up sending in for the egg donor application. One of my friends and I filled the application out right away and sent it back. She got called immediately to be an egg donor and ended up donating a total of five times over the next couple of years. I never did get called in that first year but in talking with her I could tell that it was a great thing to do and that I was going to keep at it. My friend loved the experience and her enthusiasm was contagious.
Over the following years I would reapply to be an egg donor several times. Still nothing. I decided to try applying one last time this past winter. Things got busy and I actually kind of forgot that I had applied, until this week. I received an email saying that I had been chosen by a recipient! I was elated! I felt like I had just won an Oscar. Someone had picked me! I cannot wait to start the process of helping a couple become a family. I know my role is small, it only requires one month of my time, but in another sense, my role is huge. I feel overwhelmed with excitement and humbled all at the same time.