April's journey to fertility: Week twenty one


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Twenty One: Marital Bliss Part II
Last week I discussed how to more effectively communicate with your partner and how to maintain a healthy marriage while undergoing fertility treatment. As so often happens, however, I write an article and then think of additional information I could have added.  Along with last week’s ideas here a few more which may be helpful for you and your spouse.
1.    Attend a workshop: There are many workshops offered to support couples who are dealing with infertility. I know Dr. Rob will host Kristen Magnacca during the month of November. Both my husband and I found her workshops inspirational, thought-provoking and engaging. We left having learned a number of strategies to enhance our communication skills and to maintain connected during this stressful and demanding time. In addition, we were able to hear both a male and female perspective at one of the workshops. RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association (www.resolve.org) also offers a series of workshops and teleconferences for couples dealing with fertility issues. Sometimes the idea of sitting in a room and discussing such a personal issue can be intimidating, but we have both left such workshops feeling empowered and stronger.
2.    Read a book or two on the issue: Reading about others who have gone through the same challenges can make you feel a sense of comfort, especially since those who have written these books have already faced the infertility challenge. Whether each author’s story ends in a biological birth or adoption, these authors are inspirational and offer much needed advice. Additionally, reading books that provide information on the technicalities is helpful as well. Consultation appointments and/or new diagnosis can be intimidating and confusing, but if you find one or two reference books on the issue then you will be able to look up what you do not understand or may need to clarify. Books I have discussed in recent online articles include Inconceivable, Fertility for Dummies, The Couple’s Guide to Fertility Treatments and Love and Infertity.
3.    Finally, make an effort to connect with one another. We attended a couples’ yoga class, which I was a bit nervous about myself, but we both thoroughly enjoyed. In fact, we are looking forward to attending another one in the near future. The great thing about the yoga class was that we were able to focus on each other in that moment. We did not spend the evening planning, plotting or contemplating anything, much less fertility issues. We simply connected and enjoyed the night. Whatever it is that you may be able to do in order to connect, be sure to take the time to regularly connect with each other.
Hopefully, these tips are helpful to you and your spouse. Until next week, enjoy your other half and do something to empower yourselves and to connect with each other.
April all Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility
Week nineteen: The changing seasons
Week eighteen: Grand Opening
Week seventeen: Trust your place
Week sixteen: Labels
Week fifteen: Keeping the faith
Week fourteen: Keep at it
Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage
Week twelve: Acupuncture
Week eleven: A little bit at a time
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story