April's Journey to Fertility: Week Twenty Nine


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 29: The Holidays
I do not know about many of you, but I cannot believe another Christmas is going by in which I am not pregnant or at least able to announce a pregnancy. At this point, the whole ordeal is getting to be a bit repetitive – really! This is the third holiday season in which we have had to deal with fertility challenges, and I am sure many of you can relate to that feeling of disappointment as you watch children wait in line to visit Santa or you hear talk of co-workers taking their children to holiday related events.
Although the entire season can be overwhelming, the season can be joyful as well. Personally, I want to focus on the joy and magic of this season so I do not miss any opportunities to create memories. Regardless of your religious affiliation, this season truly is beautiful. The first snowfall is always a bit enchanting, and the well lit homes and neighborhoods are beautiful. There is so much to experience, even if we do not yet have our own children.
Whether you are a parent or not, you and your spouse are a family so enjoy spending time with each other. I would encourage you to do the most you can to make this the best holiday season yet for you and your husband because you are already a family.
My husband and I have put together a list of activities we like to do together during this season. Here are some of our favorite holiday rituals:

  • Decorate the tree – don’t forget the Christmas music and tea or cocoa.
  • Take an evening drive through one of the well-lit neighborhoods.
  • Have a quiet dinner with Christmas music playing in the background.
  • Tour one of the local houses or mansions decorated for the season (Sonnenberg Gardens used to have a beautiful display of lights and a mansion tour).
  • Enjoy an evening out (dinner and/or a movie).  Restaurants are beautifully decorated for the season.
  • Take a weekend trip (Last year we went to Niagara-on-the-Lake and this year we went to Columbus, Ohio to visit my cousin and his family).
  • Wine tasting
  • Entertain during the holiday season – You may host one of the actual holidays, a small dinner party or an ornament exchange.
  • We open one of our gifts to each other on Christmas Eve after all of the bustling family events, when just the two of us are together

Whatever you do over the upcoming holidays, do not forget to acknowledge how important you and your spouse are to each other. Remember your extended family, but remember that you and your spouse are a family, too.
Holiday Blessings!
April all Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week twenty eight: Making yourself a priority
Week twenty seven: The truth is…
Week twenty six: Making a Plan
Week twenty five: Attitude of Gratitude
Week twenty four: Giving
Week twenty three: De-cluttering
Week twenty two: The Voice from Within
Week twenty one: Marital Bliss Part II
Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility
Week nineteen: The changing seasons
Week eighteen: Grand Opening
Week seventeen: Trust your place
Week sixteen: Labels
Week fifteen: Keeping the faith
Week fourteen: Keep at it
Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage
Week twelve: Acupuncture
Week eleven: A little bit at a time
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story