April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Twenty Eight: Making Yourself a Priority
Several weeks ago Kristen Magnacca held a Love and Infertility Workshop. Kristen and I have met in person two times and she has given me two half hour coaching lessons over the phone. Usually, I feel much more focused and confident that my fertility challenges will work out after speaking with or listening to her. During the November teleconference Kristen directly asked me the question, “What are you doing everyday for you?”
Like all “new” endeavors, I did exceptionally well with Kristen’s tips on how to survive infertility after I first heard her speak. One of Kristen’s top suggestions is for women facing fertility challenges to spend time each day doing something only for them. For a while I was writing my gratitude list and/or walking everyday. However, summer faded away and the pace of life became much more hectic. I began working full-time again and the cold weather set in (a weak excuse for not walking regularly, I know!).Oftentimes however, the more spiritual priorities of my life fall off of my to-do list. Then the guilt creeps in. I should have gone to yoga…I should have written my gratitude list…We haven’t gone to church in weeks…I didn’t do the MAYA abdominal massage today…I really should have taken the dog for a walk today – even he was upset by my lack of motivation! Of course, the list could go on for pages.
In reality though, there is no need to feel guilty about any of what I do or do not do. I just need to find the balance, and if I do not get to do something that personally lifts my spirits each day, then maybe I can work on finding something small to do tomorrow and then work toward something to integrate as the week or month goes on. Personally, November and December are busy months, and I am sure most of you can relate. We have several holidays and family birthdays. As we draw closer to the holiday school break, I try to push my English classes to the end of whatever novel/play we are currently reading. My expectations certainly need to be flexible, but I also need to make taking care of my own well-being a priority.
Today, I have one small thing I would like to do for my own personal enjoyment, and it will only take me thirty minutes; I want to watch A Charlie Brown Christmas. And off I go… I have the program paused so I can give my article one final edit and then I plan to settle in to watch one of my favorite Christmas specials. As for tomorrow, there is no pressure, but I do hope to take a few moments to spend some time doing something I want to do.
What can you do today, this week or this month to energize your spirit or to simply give yourself a well-deserved break from this busy time of year?
Encouraging Blessings to You!
April all Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them: