April's Journey to Fertility: Week Thirty One

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Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Thirty One: Feel Fabulous
Regardless of where you are in your journey toward fertility, one of the most important goals you can have for yourself is to be happy. Optimism wears thin and consistent enthusiasm for each new cycle is challenging, but happiness exists virtually everywhere, including within ourselves. (I realize this may sound cliché but I encourage you to keep reading.)
My last cycle began on Christmas Day. Although I had been holding out for a Christmas miracle, I quickly realized I needed to accept that was not the case and move forward. I could have spent the day focusing on my disappointment and sadness, but instead I decided to focus on making Christmas memories. We were going to be entertaining, and there really was no time to wallow in self-pity; nor was there a need to. My journey to fertility will eventually end and making the mistake of letting my cycles, doctor appointments or blood tests have such an impact on how I feel is just that – a mistake. There are too many opportunities to make memories for me to constantly focus on my fertility challenges.
When my husband and I were taking the Christmas decorations down this past weekend my husband said that he was a bit disappointed it was time to put everything away. He went on to say that other than the one major let down (my new cycle), he had one of the best holiday seasons yet. When I thought about it, I realized we did have a great season, regardless of the fact that I am not yet pregnant.
Everyday, I teach my first period class in another room. Today, when I entered, I was late and frazzled (darn upstate snow!) but said my usual good morning to my colleague and asked her how she was doing. Her reply was simple, “Fabulous,” she said. When I questioned, “Fabulous?” she replied by saying, “Yeah, fabulous. Why not?” She has a point. Why not simply feel fabulous?
For me happiness is virtually everywhere. Happiness is the holidays. Happiness is my home. Happiness is my marriage. Happiness is my health and work. Feeling fabulous is a result of noticing and embracing our happiness.
Embrace your happiness and feel fabulous!
Joyfully,
April all Year

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Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week thirty: Counting Your Blessings
Week twenty nine: The Holidays
Week twenty eight: Making yourself a priority
Week twenty seven: The truth is…
Week twenty six: Making a Plan
Week twenty five: Attitude of Gratitude
Week twenty four: Giving
Week twenty three: De-cluttering
Week twenty two: The Voice from Within
Week twenty one: Marital Bliss Part II
Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility
Week nineteen: The changing seasons
Week eighteen: Grand Opening
Week seventeen: Trust your place
Week sixteen: Labels
Week fifteen: Keeping the faith
Week fourteen: Keep at it
Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage
Week twelve: Acupuncture
Week eleven: A little bit at a time
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story