April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 10: Well-timed reminders
For each article, I make it a point to wait for whatever may serve as my weekly writing inspiration to reveal itself. By now, you know that I have control issues so waiting to be inspired can make me a bit nervous. In fact, I would actually prefer to write several articles at once and send them into our web designer in batches because I like to plan and work ahead of schedule. However, I am exceptionally grateful I waited for this week’s inspirations to surface.
I had two encouraging experiences this week. First, I broke a treasured wine glass on Friday afternoon. It was one of a pair we received as a favor at our close friends’ wedding, and I was so upset to have broken the sentimental glass, especially since I love wedding favors that we can use again because they prompt us to remember the fun event and (hopefully) happy couple. On Saturday night we attended a wedding, and do you know what the favors were? Wine glasses – beautiful, painted wine glasses! At our last meeting with Dr. Rob, he said that the universe will give you what you ask for and oftentimes something even better. The wine glasses were definitely a well-timed reminder of the universe/God’s ability to honor our wishes. To further prove Dr. Rob’s point, we ended up leaving with four wine glasses instead of two. We had a mini set by the time we left because two people at the table saw how excited I was and then gave theirs to me. What a fun little blessing! Although I may not be pregnant this month, I am certainly going to be one day – I just know it.
Secondly, I was skimming through our local publication of The Breast Cancer Coalition. Honestly, this magazine was not even addressed to me, but to the previous resident. I read through it anyway because my friend’s mother had breast cancer, and I thought I might learn about current research and/or our local awareness efforts. Interestingly enough, I found a poem titled “You Are Me” by Thich Nhat Hanh. I remember thinking that I had heard of him before and knew that he was somehow linked to Buddhism and Zen teachings. I decided that God was giving me this poem because I needed to read one poignant line: “You cultivate the flower in yourself so that I will be beautiful.”
Ladies, this is what we are doing! We are cultivating ourselves so that our babies will be beautiful. Think of all of the hard work we have already committed to in order to make this journey fruitful. Whether you have made use of Western and/or Eastern approaches, IUIs or IVFs, eliminated foods from your diet or added herbal remedies, you are taking positive steps toward cultivating your body so that it becomes a fertile and nourishing ground for pregnancy.
I often think that since we have been taking a break from the Western fertility methods we are not undergoing any fertility treatment, but that is not the case at all. I could easily generate a list of several actions we are taking to increase fertility and need to consistently recognize our efforts. Therefore, I would encourage you to take a few moments this week to actually write down what you are doing that is helping to nurture and develop your fertility. You may be surprised at just how much cultivating you are already doing!
April all Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them: