April's journey to fertility: Week nine


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week Nine: Summertime
Some of us thrive when we have our daily routine in place. I am usually one of those people, but summer always makes me less likely to follow my routine and more likely to impulsively enjoy the simple pleasures of the season. I tend to be less focused on what comes next (laundry, making dinner, grading papers) and more focused on what I can do at the present moment (shopping at a nearby vegetable stand, having lunch with a friend). I have recently realized that I am tired of planning my life. I feel as though I am always waiting for the next something and missing too many opportunities along the way. As we approach mid-summer, I realize that I need to enjoy the spontaneity of the season a bit more.
For example, I love dining al fresco and reading on my deck so I am going to do both of those as often as possible during these next several weeks. Taking the dog for long walks is much easier when the daylight spills well into the evening, and I am not distracted by any of the fall televisions shows which too often restrict my activities. (I realize the fact that Ugly Betty and Grey’s Anatomy have such an impact on my life is downright pitiful, but what can I say?) Therefore, my Jack Russell Terrier and I will both look forward to frequent leisurely strolls around the neighborhood. In fact, we will both enjoy the neighbors, too. Going around the block is much like an impromptu social activity since we neighbors are all out tending to our gardens and/or pets at approximately the same time each evening.
You may wonder what all of this has to do with my journey to fertility. Simply stated, I am far less likely to focus on my fertility challenges when I am engaged in what I am doing at the present moment. Of course, we cannot disregard all responsibilities, but don’t we owe it to ourselves to enjoy what is happening right now?  Can’t that last load of laundry wait if you want to take a moment to chat on the phone with a friend or eat a bowl of ice cream as you sit on your front porch? Open yourself up to the possibilities of this relaxing time of year. Work a little less and enjoy (whatever your heart desires) a little more.
Relaxing wishes,
April all Year

Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story

2 replies
  1. Chris Briel
    Chris Briel says:

    Hi April,
    I’ve been thoroughly enjoying you sharing your fertility story with all of us. I wish when I had my own fertility struggles I had known people like you. This week you have some wonderful insights into taking it easy in life in general. I think many of us get all wrapped up in whatever is going on in our lives and don’t take the time to enjoy it. Life goes by way too fast, I will take your advice and think more about enjoying… now.
    Best to you,

  2. Gina
    Gina says:

    i have recently realized that i should be enjoying the little things in life, and i have been doing fairly well in it. You are so right though. Life is going by way to quickly and the little things are what makes you happy and if you miss out on them, you sometimes dont get to experience them again.

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