April's journey to fertility: Week fourteen


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 14: Keep at it
I was recently reading through Dr. Rob’s past daily intentions and one was titled Keep at it. A few days later, I found notes from a past conversation with Kristen Magnacca which included three encouraging remarks: 1.) do not stop 2.) keep going and 3.) remember that we (those who are helping me work toward my goal of becoming a mother) are going to finish it together. What encouraging thoughts!
For this cycle my husband and I added a number of western fertility treatments to our routine (Intra Lipids, Lovonox, progesterone, timed IUI), and I went in for my blood pregnancy test today. On my way out of the office, I told the nurse that if my results were not positive this time, that I was simply going to keep at it. The nurse later informed me that the test results were negative. Since my husband and I are going out of town next week, I told her I would have to get back to her once this cycle officially began so we could figure out what would make the most sense in terms of fertility treatment, if any,  for this cycle. When I hung up the phone, I noticed the twins across the street playing with their mother, and I recalled a little bit of that mom’s journey to fertility, which is somewhat similar to mine. Now she has two beautiful four year olds and is living out her happily ever after. If she and her husband had not kept at it, they would not have gone through the IVF cycle that led to the birth of their son and daughter. She and the twins often remind me that my journey to fertility will be well worth the wait.
If you have followed my writing recently, you know that my grandfather was terminally ill. He recently passed away, but left behind many valuable life lessons. I often think of how he battled cancer for nearly fifteen years and would have lost so much time if he had given up early in the course of his disease. Instead, his family has years worth of memories that could have otherwise been lost if he allowed his strong will to be compromised by any frustration or exhaustion resulting from his illness.
Somehow, remembering these examples of perseverance made this day a little less upsetting.  What examples of perseverance can you rely upon to motivate you to forge forward on your journey to fertility?
Keeping at it,
April all Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage
Week twelve: Acupuncture
Week eleven: A little bit at a time
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story

6 replies
  1. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    I have been faithfully reading your posts, and this by far is my favorite. I go in for my pregnancy test on Friday morning, and I am so scared that my results will be negative. I have been occasionally thinking, “What am I going to do if this doesn’t work?”
    Your post this week made me look at the big picture, and realize that Tom and I will have a baby. It may or may not be this time, but it will be, in time.
    Thank you. Enjoy your trip – you deserve it – and I will see you at work soon.

  2. Tom Belknap
    Tom Belknap says:

    Thank you very much, April, for these encouraging words. No matter how much we understand differently, it is impossible some times not to feel like two peas in a very lonely, sea-bound pod. Reading the thoughts of a kindred spirit is a blessing.

  3. Diane
    Diane says:

    I have been following your journey and I myself have been through six failed IVF cycles. I truly believe in faith and perseverance. Keep the strong spirit..I wish the best for you.

  4. Katie
    Katie says:

    You always have the right thing to say. Keep at it! I am not going to loose faith and I will keep at it. You are going to keep at it and one day our dreams will come true! Thank you for giving us a piece of your hope!

  5. April
    April says:

    Ladies and Tom!
    Thanks so much for your feedback. This last month has definitely made me a bit more stressed in terms of thinking “what if it doesn’t happen?” but I really do know we just have to keep going. Giving up just isn’t an option for a 31 year old couple who has too much energy not to be parents!
    Keep at it!!!
    April all Year

  6. Gina
    Gina says:

    im sorry about your granfather. I know how difficult that must have been. Great job pulling through that negative pregnancy test.

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