April’s Journey to Fertility: Week Forty One
Posted by: April on Mar 17, 2010 in News

April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.

Week 41: What if…
Yesterday, I looked at my husband and simply asked, “What if it doesn’t work?” He looked puzzled and replied, “The curtains?” (We have been in the midst of redecorating each room in our house for years now and I just brought my latest curtain purchase into the office, hours before this conversation.) I continued to look at him and quietly said, “IVF.” I could barely vocalize my fear or the term itself. I had even tried to ask him this earlier in the evening, but could not get the words out.

Now sometimes I do not give my husband enough credit. I often wonder if he is really listening and we certainly have our share of arguments. But yesterday, he made all of the right points. His response went something like this: “Do you remember when you were diagnosed with MS and what a difficult first year that was because you did not know what to expect, if the treatment would work or if you would have a debilitating flare up? Well, you did face some obstacles in terms of the initial diagnosis and the one flare up, but now you are doing well. You got through it and you rarely focus on it. You have to remember all of the meaningful lessons that came from that first year, how lucky you are to be healthy despite your chronic condition, and how your body has responded to treatment. You have had countless MRI scans and doctor appointments and have been told you are doing well because you are doing well. I think what you need is to remember that we can overcome this obstacle and that we and our team of health care professionals are doing everything possible to reach our goal of becoming parents. You need to have a little faith and trust in the process and in us.”

And that is all I have to say this week because my husband said it all. We have had our fertility obstacles and we are overcoming them. Each procedure, test and appointment is getting us one step closer to becoming parents.

On another note, I know I did say I would further discuss Parenthood for Me and other resources for couples and women going through fertility treatment, but I could not resist giving my husband the credit he deserves as well as writing down all of his well-stated points. Sometimes he is right!

Listening and Giving Credit,
April All Year


Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:

Week forty: Creating Families and Parenthood for Me

Week thirty nine: Trusting Fate

Week thirty eight: A Little Review

Week thirty seven: Really!

Week thirty six: Thankfully

Week thirty five: Groundhog Day… Again

Week thirty four: Empowerment

Week thirty three: Fearful

Week thirty two: Life’s Haze

Week thirty one: Feel Fabulous

Week thirty: Counting Your Blessings

Week twenty nine: The Holidays

Week twenty eight: Making yourself a priority

Week twenty seven: The truth is…

Week twenty six: Making a Plan

Week twenty five: Attitude of Gratitude

Week twenty four: Giving

Week twenty three: De-cluttering

Week twenty two: The Voice from Within

Week twenty one: Marital Bliss Part II

Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility

Week nineteen: The changing seasons

Week eighteen: Grand Opening

Week seventeen: Trust your place

Week sixteen: Labels

Week fifteen: Keeping the faith

Week fourteen: Keep at it

Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage

Week twelve: Acupuncture

Week eleven: A little bit at a time

Week ten: Well-timed reminders

Week nine: Summertime

Week eight: Resiliency

Week seven: Tiny miracles

Week six: Bahama Mama

Week five: The right path for us

Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”

Week three: Deliberate choices

Week two: This moment

Week one: My story

3 responses to “April’s Journey to Fertility: Week Forty One”

  1. Aimee Fedele says:

    I think your husband said it perfectly!! Have FAITH April… We are all here for you!

  2. Dawn says:

    April – you have gone through a lot but you are also very brave. All the treatment and doing the right things for your health and well-being. Not to mention, sharing all this with the rest of us. I want to thank you and let you know that you have a whole bunch of people cheering for you and your husband!!!

    It is going to work out and think of the wonderful story you will have for your children.

    Keep the faith. 🙂

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