April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week 41: What if…
Yesterday, I looked at my husband and simply asked, “What if it doesn’t work?” He looked puzzled and replied, “The curtains?” (We have been in the midst of redecorating each room in our house for years now and I just brought my latest curtain purchase into the office, hours before this conversation.) I continued to look at him and quietly said, “IVF.” I could barely vocalize my fear or the term itself. I had even tried to ask him this earlier in the evening, but could not get the words out.
Now sometimes I do not give my husband enough credit. I often wonder if he is really listening and we certainly have our share of arguments. But yesterday, he made all of the right points. His response went something like this: “Do you remember when you were diagnosed with MS and what a difficult first year that was because you did not know what to expect, if the treatment would work or if you would have a debilitating flare up? Well, you did face some obstacles in terms of the initial diagnosis and the one flare up, but now you are doing well. You got through it and you rarely focus on it. You have to remember all of the meaningful lessons that came from that first year, how lucky you are to be healthy despite your chronic condition, and how your body has responded to treatment. You have had countless MRI scans and doctor appointments and have been told you are doing well because you are doing well. I think what you need is to remember that we can overcome this obstacle and that we and our team of health care professionals are doing everything possible to reach our goal of becoming parents. You need to have a little faith and trust in the process and in us.”
And that is all I have to say this week because my husband said it all. We have had our fertility obstacles and we are overcoming them. Each procedure, test and appointment is getting us one step closer to becoming parents.
On another note, I know I did say I would further discuss Parenthood for Me and other resources for couples and women going through fertility treatment, but I could not resist giving my husband the credit he deserves as well as writing down all of his well-stated points. Sometimes he is right!
Listening and Giving Credit,
April All Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them: