April's journey to fertility: Week eleven


Fertility SymbolApril is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face.
Week 11: A little bit at a time
I am the oldest of 13 grandchildren and every once in a while my grandparents, who are in their mid-eighties, pass a bit of their wisdom onto me. When my husband and I visited my terminally ill grandfather in the hospital this past weekend Gran’pa gave me a short but meaningful response when I asked him how he was doing. “A little bit at a time.” I remember thinking to myself how those six words could be applied to many of life’s experiences, especially those revolving around infertility.
I have many overwhelming fleeting thoughts around my ability to conceive. This month my fleeting thoughts have been about my many appointments. I have more scheduled this month because we have decided to add some Western fertility treatments to our routine. My mind also keeps questioning why I haven’t become pregnant yet. Additionally, I have already let that nagging feeling about how I will handle teaching again next month and fitting in various doctor appointments. No wonder I feel overwhelmed! Therefore, I am making a resolution: I will take this whole process a little bit at a time.
The question is how can I commit to a little bit at a time when I have a tendency to consider the whole month or the entire long term plan? Here is how I intend to minimize my wandering thoughts:
1.    Focus on what I am doing today (and only today) that will foster my fertility. Today’s list: take my BBT, go to an acupuncture appointment, check with the doctor’s office about an appointment I need to make next week and ask about  the insurance process, pick up my medication from Fed Ex, do some yoga and/or walking.
2.    Remind myself of the following:

  • I am consistently doing everything I can to establish my fertility
  • I have a team of specialists who are focused on maximizing our chances of conceiving
  • We have many friends and family rooting for us and praying for us
  • I believe it will happen and so does my husband (I am just tired of waiting!)

My intention for you this week would be to consistently focus on the day’s appointments and accomplishments. Let’s all make every attempt to re-focus our minds on today and to worry about tomorrow’s appointments and accomplishments tomorrow! I will let you know how it goes.
Many, many blessings,
April all Year
PS – I love reading your comments. Thank you to everyone who has posted! Sharing is a great way to support each other as we continue on our journey toward motherhood.
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story

6 replies
  1. Kim
    Kim says:

    Please let us know what you think of the acupuncture. I have been going on and off since April. I find it very relaxing. If I don’t go for awhile my body seems to crave it, which is better than craving chocolate I guess.

  2. Katie
    Katie says:

    Love, love your entry this week, April! I couldnt agree more with you. I will be going back to teaching in September and I have the same feelings. How will I fit in these appointments? What if I am late for work? How can I create my schedule to work around my treatments?
    You have a great way of thinking of things. “A little bit at a time.” It goes perfectly with my favorite saying. I tell myself everyday, “one day at a time.” I even wear a necklace everyday to help remind myself of how important it is to not get overwhelmed. (easier said than done)
    You are a very strong woman and are doing amazingly well at taking control of your life. You should be proud of yourself! Always remember, you will be a mom!

  3. Stace
    Stace says:

    I am actually a teacher too. It’s interesting and frustrating to me. We obviously all love children so much that we have chosen careers where we are surrounded by children yet seem to have so much difficulty having our own. Like each of you, I have already begun the “what if” thinking in terms of returning to school, fitting in appointments, etc. I, too, need a constant reminder to take one day at a time, and that things have a way of working out. I have a very supportive family and a very supportive set of colleagues as well that are constantly rooting for me. Please do share thoughts and feelings regarding the acupuncture. I have thought about giving this a try but the whole “needles” thing freaks me out and I am more concerned about it increasing my stress-level rather than diminishing it. I am very much enjoying the weekly yoga class that I have started to attend though.

  4. April
    April says:

    HI Everyone,
    Thanks so much for your responses – I really do LOVE reading them! I will use next week’s online article to discuss acupuncture in more detail, but let me tell you this much. I have always been “sickly” in the winter, either with sinus infections or bronchitis. This winter I was the healthiest I have ever been. Additionally, I haven’t had an MS flare up in quite some time and my anxiety has been greatly diminished. Lastly, my acupuncturist did get me to ovulate at a “healthy” time versus day 8, 9, or 10 of my cycle. I have to give myself daily injections for my MS medication, so I was not looking to forward to needles either, BUT acupuncture itself is relaxing and well worth it. As for starting school again….tell me about it:) We will make it work though – all of us, because we have to.
    Please keep the comments coming!!
    April all Year

  5. Elizabeth Lis
    Elizabeth Lis says:

    Hi April-
    I have been going to CNY a little over a year, and TTC for about 2 years. This is the first time I have read your post. I am also a teacher so can relate to trying to fit in all the appointments.
    I just finished my first IVF cylce yesterday and now in my 2ww. What you said is so true and really made me think. You have to take everything one day at a time and know you are doing everything you can. I will now look for your posts more often. Thanks for the words of wisdom!
    Just an added note, I did acupuncture for the first time yesterday and loved it. I am hooked!

  6. Gina
    Gina says:

    I like acupuncture but sometimes get these muscle spasms that make it a little uncomfortable. Its great to hear things got back on track for you, meaning your ovulating.

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