April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. Week 11: A little bit at a time
I am the oldest of 13 grandchildren and every once in a while my grandparents, who are in their mid-eighties, pass a bit of their wisdom onto me. When my husband and I visited my terminally ill grandfather in the hospital this past weekend Gran’pa gave me a short but meaningful response when I asked him how he was doing. “A little bit at a time.” I remember thinking to myself how those six words could be applied to many of life’s experiences, especially those revolving around infertility.
I have many overwhelming fleeting thoughts around my ability to conceive. This month my fleeting thoughts have been about my many appointments. I have more scheduled this month because we have decided to add some Western fertility treatments to our routine. My mind also keeps questioning why I haven’t become pregnant yet. Additionally, I have already let that nagging feeling about how I will handle teaching again next month and fitting in various doctor appointments. No wonder I feel overwhelmed! Therefore, I am making a resolution: I will take this whole process a little bit at a time.
The question is how can I commit to a little bit at a time when I have a tendency to consider the whole month or the entire long term plan? Here is how I intend to minimize my wandering thoughts:
1. Focus on what I am doing today (and only today) that will foster my fertility. Today’s list: take my BBT, go to an acupuncture appointment, check with the doctor’s office about an appointment I need to make next week and ask about the insurance process, pick up my medication from Fed Ex, do some yoga and/or walking.
2. Remind myself of the following:
I am consistently doing everything I can to establish my fertility
I have a team of specialists who are focused on maximizing our chances of conceiving
We have many friends and family rooting for us and praying for us
I believe it will happen and so does my husband (I am just tired of waiting!)