April's Journey to Fertility: This Broken Road


April is a CNY Fertility Center patient and has been on her journey to fertility for approximately two and a half years. April will share candid stories and a unique perspective on the fertility challenges many women and couples face. CNY Fertility Center has locations in Syracuse, Albany and Rochester, NY.
Week 44: This Broken Road
At the recent Parenthood for Me fundraiser, Dr. Kiltz said a few words about a couple who told him they were glad they had never been successfully treated for infertility: the reason? The couple never would have adopted their child who they love and could not imagine their lives without. Later in the week I connected this meaningful story with the lyrics to a song I recently heard.
On my way home from work, I happened to catch a phrase on our local country music channel as I was flipping through the stations: “God blessed this broken road that led me straight to you.” For those of you who are not familiar with the song, its title is God Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts. I almost never listen to country music, and I am certainly glad the DJ announced the title of the song as well as the band name. (Yes, I know some of you may be appalled at my lack of knowledge regarding this popular band. I really do have to expand my musical horizons!) But I just had to listen to the entire song. The lyrics are about someone who couldn’t understand the grander plan until he reached the end of his road to love. And although this is a love song, being a mother is about love, too. And we all want to find our little loves.

I thought about how my and my husband’s last three years have resembled a broken road with many cracks (blood tests, ultra sounds, consults) bumps (lack of resilience and exhaustion), faded areas (hopelessness) and potholes (failed cycles). The song goes on to say how the narrator “got lost a time or two”, but wiped his brow and “kept pushing through.”  I remember driving in the car thinking about how all who are on their journeys to fertility must keep pushing through.
There is also a line that will sum up our journeys once we achieve motherhood: “Every long lost dream led me to where you are.” I know we feel as if our dreams are unattainable and that the road we are traveling is simply too broken and filled with loss for our hearts to handle, but we aren’t there yet. We have to keep going. We have to keep working toward our dream because when we look back on these difficult journeys, we will bless the broken roads that have led us to our children.
On the journey together,
April All Year
Below are links to April’s past articles in case you missed any of them:
Week forty three: Online Resources
Week forty two: Resources and Personal Update
Week forty one: What if…
Week forty: Creating Families and Parenthood for Me
Week thirty nine: Trusting Fate
Week thirty eight: A Little Review
Week thirty seven: Really!
Week thirty six: Thankfully
Week thirty five: Groundhog Day… Again
Week thirty four: Empowerment
Week thirty three: Fearful
Week thirty two: Life’s Haze
Week thirty one: Feel Fabulous
Week thirty: Counting Your Blessings
Week twenty nine: The Holidays
Week twenty eight: Making yourself a priority
Week twenty seven: The truth is…
Week twenty six: Making a Plan
Week twenty five: Attitude of Gratitude
Week twenty four: Giving
Week twenty three: De-cluttering
Week twenty two: The Voice from Within
Week twenty one: Marital Bliss Part II
Week twenty: Marital bliss and infertility
Week nineteen: The changing seasons
Week eighteen: Grand Opening
Week seventeen: Trust your place
Week sixteen: Labels
Week fifteen: Keeping the faith
Week fourteen: Keep at it
Week thirteen: Maya Abdominal Massage
Week twelve: Acupuncture
Week eleven: A little bit at a time
Week ten: Well-timed reminders
Week nine: Summertime
Week eight: Resiliency
Week seven: Tiny miracles
Week six: Bahama Mama
Week five: The right path for us
Week four: Our fertility treatment “break”
Week three: Deliberate choices
Week two: This moment
Week one: My story

1 reply
  1. Autumn
    Autumn says:

    thank you for the broken road story- Me and my husband were married on 10/11/08 and God Bless the Broken Road is what i walked down the aisle too. This song had much meaning to me too in that both my husband and i went through many trials prior to our lives together. Mine with my chronic illness , and his with broken relationships and short failings in life in general. My husband is 12 years older than me and this is his first time being married and he has no children. My chronic illness was Dermatomyositis-(autoimmune-similar to Lupus) its been in remission for several years thank the Lord! But everything i struggled with that debilitating disease makes me look at the fertility issues as another medical issue i have to deal with. I have not been letting myself think to much into it because I also haven’t started any treatment yet. But anyways just wanted to thank you for sharing your story and it struck me with that song being so close to my heart and how you made it relate to the fertility journey.
    With much hope & faith

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