“When you smile, life smiles with you, and in her book, Laughing IS Conceivable, Lori Shandle-Fox shares many smiles and how humor uplifts us in the most challenging times. Infertility is hard, yet when you add a spark of humor to the journey, the light shines and improves the experience and, I believe, the outcome. Thanks to Lori for sharing many laughs.”
Robert J. Kiltz, MD, FACOG
Owner & Director CNY Fertility & CNY Healing Arts Centers
Syracuse, Albany, Rochester & Buffalo (soon to open)
Author: The Fertile Secret, Guide to Living a Fertile Life – buy here
“An Interview with Myself (How Ridiculous)” By Lori Shandle-Fox
Blogger: Laughing IS Conceivable
Author: Laughing IS Conceivable: One Woman’s Extremely Funny Peek into the Extremely Unfunny World of Infertility – buy here
Okay, I admit it. This is the most narcissistic thing I’ve ever done. Or maybe I’m a latent schizophrenic. It’s hard to tell with Jewish people. We grow up with everybody in the family talking loudly at the same time. Before long, it’s easy to get confused as to whether the voices are coming from inside your own head or not. And then after a while, you’ll hear your mother’s voice telling you not to do something and you realize she’s not even in the same city as you. Enough about my mental diseases. On with my fertility issues. I just hope I don’t ask myself any embarrassing questions.
Interviewer: Your book is called: Laughing IS Conceivable: One Woman’s Extremely Funny Peek into the Extremely Unfunny World of Infertility.
Are you saying that there’s something funny about infertility?
Me: Everything’s funny about infertility. Of course the tragedy of having to go through it isn’t funny, and the way society treats you isn’t funny, and all the tests and medications you have to endure aren’t funny. Wait, what?
Interviewer: You just said so yourself: Infertility isn’t funny. So how do you have a humor blog and a book making fun of it?
Me: That’s just it. My book and blog use laughter to de-stress the already over over oooverly-stressed. After all it’s put us through, infertility should be made fun of–the jerk.
Interviewer: So what’s so funny about it? You still haven’t told us.
Me: Geez, stop badgering me…(huffs and rolls her eyes) Well, when I was a kid my father once asked my mother why she never wanted to visit his relatives, to which she replied:
“Because they’re ridiculous people”.
The ridiculous people and/or the ridiculous things people say to us when we are trying to conceive are funny. They’re not as hurtful if we can laugh at the idiocy. “If you go on vacation, you’ll get pregnant.” Okay let me go do that. Of course we’ve spent so much on fertility treatments, we have no money for a real vacation. Maybe we’ll just go camping. Yeah, that’s probably why I can’t get pregnant, I’ve never done my husband in a tent. And it’s not just the dopy comments that are amusing. Nurses are funny. Receptionists are funny. Waiting rooms are hilarious.
Interviewer: Waiting rooms are funny? What are you a lunatic?
Me: Waiting rooms are a laugh riot. I mean it’s not like going to a dentist twice a year. Sometimes you’re at the fertility doctor twice a week. I used to turn down the page in the magazine I was reading and then hide it under something that nobody ever reads like Golf Digest so I could finish my article when I came back in a couple of days without having to hunt it down.
Interviewer: Golf fans are going to be very upset that you said nobody reads Golf Digest.
Me: Well, it’s true. At least at a fertility clinic. Guys read about sports that summon testosterone like football or hockey. There was a husband I used to always see in the waiting room reading the same article over and over about a hockey player who got his eye knocked out, scooped it off the ice and popped it back into the socket while scoring the winning goal. This husband knew that if he read Golf Digest we all would be thinking: “So HE’S the reason, they’re here.”
I also had my favorite chair in the waiting room. I would look for it the second I got off the elevator. I was really unhappy if it was occupied. I admit I may have taken it too far. Once I yelled at a woman: “What do you think you’re doing?! You’re in my chair!”
Interviewer: That doesn’t sound so bad. I’m sure she understood that under such stressful circumstances, you felt comforted by that familiar chair.
Me: Did I mention I offered to beat her with it? I blame it on the hormone injections. I used to be a nice person.
Lori Shandle-Fox is a professional humor writer and infertility survivor. To visit her sites, or read more about her book, click on the book cover icon above or: